My daughter is considering whether or not to pledge a sorority. Not having any experience to draw on, my wife and I are asking a lot of questions hoping to shed our many misconceptions of Greek life (Animal House and Valley Girls are vivid pictures from my generation). We are assuming it’s not all like that but, if not, then what?
Doing her due diligence, she brought home a brochure describing Greek life on campus and each of the houses. Of course, the brochure is beautiful–glossy, striking pictures of young men and women on daring adventures, engaged in philanthropic endeavors, and generally looking stunning. The brochure is definitely marketed for parents–no pictures of all night dance parties, beer pong, or guys on couches, their eyes glazed over with weed induced contentment.
The theme of the brochure struck me even before I opened it. BE MORE! My first question was, “Be more what?” My second question was, “Is my daughter not enough already?” Then my mind started wandering and I began to ask myself, “Am I not enough?” “Who gets to decide?”
Then (can you sense I got on a roll), I imagined myself entering this season of Advent and Christmas or, as they are culturally known–Black Friday and the four week Festival of Consumption. The messages of be more, buy more, have more, will permeate our senses at every turn, anxiety will escalate, and relationships will be vice-grip tense.
Unless. Unless, we choose otherwise. Maybe there is a way to be more (in a good way). But I think the only way I can get there is through being less. So here is what I’ve decided. Hold me to it. I’ve decided to:
Be less consumed by things and more compassionate toward people.
Be less scheduled in time and more open to wonder.
Be less judgmental about others’ motives and more available to others’ needs.
Be less obsessed with choosing the right present and more driven to be rightly present.
Be less concerned about what others think and more conscious of God’s thoughts.
Be less focused on my t.v. or computer or phone and more focused on my family.
It’s Monday. If you were going to create your own “less is more” list for this season, what would it look like? Peace. Kai